People thinking about sex work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you are in survival mode, you have no good options and this article isn\u2019t for you. It\u2019s for people who have the option to NOT DO IT. Hopefully some of them will realise it isn\u2019t for them, and avoid a huge mistake. It\u2019s also not about the nuts and bolts of making money, or the businesses process \u2013 for which the TLDR is \u201cit\u2019s a lot harder than you think, esp online sex work\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Me? I love this world. But, it isn’t for everyone. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
MOST IMPORTANT \u2013 take a good long look at yourself and your motives. Sex Work can be a huge mistake, one that can seriously damage your mental health, and can put you at physical risk.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Don\u2019t do it unless it\u2019s for positive reasons of self fulfillment and being true to yourself. That might sound crazy, but it\u2019s true. If you want to get fucked up, do sex work for the wrong reasons – money and fame are wrong reasons. Money and fame are side effects of the right reasons, if you’re lucky..<\/p>\n\n\n\n Some people get into sex work as a reaction to other things in their lives. Sex work as therapy practice. Even if that\u2019s not quite how it seems at the time. It might work for you, but it\u2019s a crazy high risk way of dealing with things. If this sounds like you, please try something else first!<\/p>\n\n\n\n WHILE IN SEX WORK <\/strong>\u2013 be enthusiastically in up to your limits, or be OUT. Sex work is work, but it isn\u2019t just another job. It can take a mental toll, and that becomes very likely if you start working beyond your limits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n LIMITS<\/strong> \u2013 know them, stick to them. They might change over time but trust me, going past your limits when you don\u2019t really want to, is bad for the mental health.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Porn (and camming)<\/strong> \u2013 you should love the fact that people will see you. If this isn\u2019t a turn on, don\u2019t do it. Because once you do porn, it stays done, it stays out there and it NEVER goes away. OWN IT. There is no such thing as a secret OnlyFans or camming on the QT.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Seriously, you have to be turned on by knowing that other people are watching you fuck. They\u2019re watching, you\u2019re DOING. You\u2019re where they wish they could be. If that isn\u2019t you, my advice is don\u2019t do porn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Also, how are you with family, friends, and EMPLOYERS finding out?<\/strong> You need to be sure you are Ok with that and fine with, for example, getting sacked. And your porn might not be making you any money either. So, be careful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n IMO one of the biggest changes has been that porn has gone from something only complete rebels did, and they had to work hard to find find a way in, (it wasn\u2019t easy even for girls to find their way to the right people, what with it being against the law, and yes, I am that old…), so no one did porn by accident. Everyone went in eyes open. Now, it\u2019s almost too easy to set up an OnlyFans and be distributing porn that will be out there forever. Porn I am in, from the 90’s, is still out there, online.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Escorting<\/strong> \u2013 frankly, if you\u2019re not an adrenaline junkie, escorting is going to do your head in. Meeting strangers 1-2-1 and fucking them is means being mad vulnerable. You can take all the precautions you like, at the back of your mind you\u2019ll know it could all go wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I used to go into the mountains in winter solo hiking. Nothing too serious, but enough to need an ice axe. And before mobile phones. I was very careful to minimise risks, but yes, a bad fall would have killed me. It was great. I loved it. But most people, even most climbers, don\u2019t. That\u2019s why you can have an entire mountain to yourself in winter, when it\u2019s got hundreds of people on it in summer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Basically, even if you start escorting OK, if you start to find yourself getting stressed, bail. I\u2019ve seen women lose their mental health like this, self medicate with drink or drugs and, well, not good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The escorts I know who have done it long term, and thrived, they love sex. Not all the sex, but enough to view the cock as a living dildo and the job generally pleasant. They also don\u2019t take any shit, and if they think they are under threat, they are all teeth and claws, not playing dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you want to escort, take precautions, and SAVE ALL YOUR MONEY. That way if you do decide it isn\u2019t a long term thing, you\u2019ll get out with something worth having \u2013 somewhere between funding for a course or a big house deposit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Controlling Boyfriends<\/strong> \u2013 if this getting into this is coming from your BF, just dump his arse. It has to come from you, or it\u2019s a mistake.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Straight Guys Escorting<\/strong> \u2013 for you it\u2019s simple. Escorting will almost certainly be a bust.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Straight Guys Porn<\/strong> \u2013 it\u2019s very hard to get into and you need the right motivation. Which is that you really are exhibitionist. Not “I want to fuck the hot girls”, but “I want to be SEEN to be fucking all the women”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Gay Guys<\/strong> \u2013 not an area I know much about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Key Links<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/badbutlerxxx.com\/badbutler\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/peepshow.jpg\")
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